This or That – “Redefining THE ONE” #fallinloveagain

Most of us have gone through the agony of Heart break in some shape or form. That screeching pain, sheer helplessness and constantly flowing tears- what’s that one promise that we do to ourselves- We will never fall in this shitty trap of love again. We decide that nothing is worth the pain and suddenly the entire faith in the most beautiful thing of universe is shattered making it the most resisted thing.

And while you are gathering yourself and getting accustomed to being strong, imagine if someone comes knocking this closed door again. Shows you how you are worth being with, gets you wear those rose-tinted glasses to see the world yet again and give you hope to live life full of love and bliss.

Leaves you all confused- what is the meaning of this whole “meant to be” stuff? You start with self- doubt (do you even deserve it) and then doubt every intention and situation of this person (making scenarios all over in head- looking all the red/amber or remotely pink flags). That hurt heart and inner circle of friends keeps on giving warnings on what can go wrong and how carefully you should proceed. But, amidst this chaos and fear- there is one tiny little nook of the heart that wants to live again, love again and give life a chance again.

Most times, you give in to the hopes- but with a very conscious head- it’s not the same butterflies as before- every time he makes you feel special- you try to balance your emotions remembering the pain in the past for being over ecstatic (and maybe end up feeling guilty not fully indulging in one of the most beautiful pleasures of the world).

And once you start to re- discover the world with this new person- it surely manages to have it’s own quirks along the way:

For the first time you receive flowers/gifts- you end up comparing the choices and budget 😉(are you greedy enough to compare bags with jewellery and then try to make up your mind- which ones do you like more? )

The whole collection of attire – suddenly the wardrobe has to change for favourite colours, style and pick. Did you also end up changing your DP on social media basis the new preferences😉 . How considerate we girls are when it comes to pleasing the guy. And every time you get different compliment on same dress- you truly live the words- beauty lies in eyes of beholder 😊
That first dinner date- you try to adjust to these new set of restaurants (maybe more/maybe less fancy) and adjusting your palate from Asian to Italian or vice versa (suddenly you change the part of world you like more) and if everything is largely the same- you end up comparing how well they both like the same dish 😉reminiscing the table you last sat in and the dress you wore back then.
Shifting from chopsticks to fork or eating pizza with a knife or other way round- damn this new relationship is too much hard work (and god save you if you have to resort to you tube to refine your table manners)
Comes the dessert- Indian/Italian/Ice cream on the go- the first bite together clearly reminds you of the temperature alignment/disconnects you two had and which suddenly might become an inappropriate all through.
Set of conversations- very important. Comparing the length of conversations, bliss of silence, playlists that you share, dreams and fancies and even the genre of jokes to be laughed upon. You compare each time only to feel better, safe or to feel nervous and redeciding your benchmarks.
Next step comes- planning a vacation- suddenly you might have to become an explorer of different kind who like to relax and have luxury all around or vice versa (and that tiny little voice inside remind you of all the promises you did to get up at 5am and watch sun rises together or be in bed till midday and give a damn).
Small things matter- you suddenly notice- how compatible are your clothing habits or hygiene habits are- suddenly you are reinventing OCD’s around wet towels and accommodating the new ones- damn the resilience of a broken heart !! but you still end up comparing both similarities and differences.
And last but not the least- someday you end up comparing sizes 😉the ways and means of how good/better the end of the day and early morning bliss(s) looks like in the bed you share. Damn the first time – is it all the replay background of the touch, the feel, the odour, the passion and the soiled sheets (in all humane terms- btw this is the last thing you should be comparing).

And in all of it more often than not- you end up thinking- how world and everything around is so different with different people. When you thought the earlier version was “The ONE” and is nothing short of “meant to be”- with this new one you think- Are you REDEFINING the whole definition of “The ONE”.

In all the chaos – another thought- are you even capable of thinking who should be “The ONE” or this “meant to be” is nothing but going with the flow- cos maybe each time the person in picture is different or same but its only YOUR LOVE that makes them “SPECIAL” and makes them “The ONE”.#fallinlove #instaquote #relationship aylaaylin bloggerlife creativewriting fuckology fuckologyofficial lifequote perfectsayings spillingbeans startups textgram twirlingphases wordporn wordsofwisdom writersofinstagram