Psychology- Is it the new FAD?

Have you ever heard people recommending “THERAPIES”. To the distressed couple, to a woman feeling pressurised by the family, to an anxious heartbroken lover. Common- isn’t it? We never got these so called money shelling advise 10 years back. One such time when I was under pressure and unable to survive my mind and recommended these 5 grand a sitting advise- I kept on wondering- Is this all a FAD or for real? 

Well there are contrasting views- while most of educated US would advocate seeking professional help for mental problems just like any other illness, there is clearly an alternative view- Are we killing the natural human reactions in the garb of being logical and rational and somewhere de-strengthening the human mind’s capability of surfacing back on its own from the adversity? 

Makes me imagine, if this branch of science which very capably tries and show us the OTHER SIDE (specially to the LADIES in distress) and let us make an INFORMED DESCISON would have existed ages back- Would we been living in a different world all together? 

And here I let my wild horses loose imagining one of our EPIC life learning MAHABHARATA Chapter from the lens of a Psychology:

Scene 1 -If Draupadi would have gone to a psychologist just after “Cheerharan” and before instigating her husbands for the war: Imagine the conversation:

Draupadi: I am feeling very anguished by the humiliation and I seek revenge. My mind is full of ANGER and HATRED and I am unable to focus/feeling anxious. What should I do? (Remember only the distressed ones goes to Therapy- 😉)

Psychologist– You CALM Down first, and let’s start from the beginning. How was your childhood relation with your siblings? (Do we really have to start from this beginning – 🙄) 

Draupadi– Mmmmm, I don’t know, I was just born from fire.  (Humans are surely complicated but my judgement is the best 😊– Don’t we all think that sitting in that chair with someone doing another round of CHEERHARAN on us?) 

Psychologist: Ok, so what triggered this entire episode of “Cheerharan”? Tell me all about it (Now this is called Objectively understanding the situation- UNBIASED VIEW and then being JUDJEMENTAL– 😋)

Draupadi- I just simply made a satirical remark on Duryodhan “ Andhe ka beta Andha”. It was just a fun banter between Bhabhi and Dewar- no malicious intentions. (The distressed trying to defend the instigation and acting Naive- Sounds relatable ladies–we never meant BAD (Winking smiley))

Psychologist: How is your husband’s relationship with their brother Duryodhan? (Now here comes discovering the family history and blaming all on it- is this some standard line of questioning and blaming this science follow)

Draupadi– Should have been like normal cousins, I have just come in as a newly-wed. How am I supposed to know the background (Muje kya pata bhai- andar kya chal raha hai/tha?) 

Psychologist: What do you know about Duryodhan’s childhood? (if I only have to tell everything why the hell I am paying- but remember – Psychologists only spool your thoughts in better way- they don’t create it- hand over the spools atleast- 😁)

Draupadi: I don’t know, must be good- he is a PRINCE, lives in palaces, had world on his feet. (Again muje kya pata bhai- dikhne me to sab badiya hai) but listen this is all I have heard from people around (and she bakars all that she has heard/seen!!) 

Psychologist: Now that I know enough, let’s try and interpret this episode from the OTHER side- Duryodhan’s mindset. (and here comes the much awaited ANGLE)  

See, basis the facts I think he was a deserted child who always had lived in the comparison of his cousins. His constant insecurity was fuelled by his Mama Shakuni and his mother’s overpampering. Now this is where incorrect parenting comes in (Damn !!- has this been root cause of Indian men’s problem since THEN– 🙄)

He has seen his father and (mother willingly) suffering all his life and hence that trauma has made a permanent scar in his mind (Recall ladies- we definitely have heard this before)  

And due to all of this (its always due to ALL OF THESE)– he has become Rebellious and Revengeful. This has nothing to do with YOU personally. He has just become a sadist personality due to all of these situations and we can’t (rather we SHOULDN’T) blame him when he sought revenge for the remarks you made against him (See you were not gullible – either-😊– SUBTLY SHOWING your FAULTS too). 

Now you are a grown-up women, who has a logical and rationale mind (and the ONUS to understand the world LIES on you poor babes). And who also knows that Duryodhan is DURYODHAN due to his childhood insecurities and parenting. His soul is just like you and I and is PURE and you need to look right there (Now that you have spoken to me- you can’t act as IGNORANT- else you will be GULITY) 

ADVISE– So instead of being in REVENGE, you can nurture this poor, love starved guy with some care and respect and he will be your best friend (dewars are supposed to be the younger brothers remember !!).  

And ALAS !! Draupadi understood the OTHER SIDE and agreed to experiment 🙄- what else the POOR OBLIGATED SOUL would do. 

Now imagine if this would have happened- The so called “Mahabharata War” would NOT have happened 😄. And then, apart from the obvious – no bloodshed, loss of lives and money and no history lessons, we would have been devoid of some LIFE LEARNINGS and an epic history and Gyan of “Good prevails over evil”. What would have we done all these million years – if we wouldn’t have known that Mahabharata Saar- “Karm kar- fal ki iccha mat kar”. Every damn industry in this modern world- would they even have existed. A stupid psychologist could have DOOMED it ALL !!!  

Makes me realise- do I still want to go to A Psychologist- do I always need to see the OTHER SIDE (no offenses but sometimes maybe yes 😊). 

But wondering – maybe this side is what is SUPPOSED to be. Maybe this is side of the REAL WORLD. Maybe this side is just the REALITY OF FUCKED UP HUMAN MINDS who grow and learn in exact way as they are MEANT to BE. So nutshell “Karm kar Fal ki Ichha mat kar”.