Contribution of Girls GANG in Relationships….
We all will agree that one of the most important moments in a relationship is “Introduction of your partner/crush/special friend to your gang of friends”.
Some credit to “John Grey” for the MARS and VENUS concept- this exact same moment comes very differently for a guy and girl introducing each other to their group of friends. Read below and comment if you can resonate.
FYI- In a typical GIRLS gang (99.9% are typical by the way) everything relating to dating life is being discussed out and loud openly –details of first date (those surprise flower arrangements, customised play list for the car, pre reserved places and way to them and pre ordered deserts in menu- in all ways he made you feel special) to that first kiss (how deep and passionate, France or India :p, the style of kissing and everything leading post that.. ) and even the first make out (discussing fancies vs reality :p and all sorts of sizes added with some sugar and spicy spices..…).
The advantages of having a “GIRLS GANG” is that you have ears for everything and it includes not just the good parts but also those first-time disappointment on his priority on sleeping than talking, weird eating habits, lifestyle issues etc etc. BTW it also includes discussing important questions like “is he the ONE?”. You know that someone will patiently hear, be happy/sad with you, provide perspective and one day will second your opinion on next steps too.
On the contrary the dating life discussions for boys be like- “bhai sab sai chal raha hain hai?”, “photo to dikha.” with response being “haan bhai super hot hai” until the conversation comes to a point of saying at some point in time “bhai I really like her- ab kya karun” (Emoji with tongue out). BTW the length of conversation about dating life between boys and girls actually varies as much as these paras.
Now when a girl introduces her boyfriend (or more alleged so to say) to her already enlightened GANG.. the poor guy doesn’t even know that he’s landing into a trap which has been carefully planned. This is not just to see if he fits in the group (for a long term) but also to have independent assessments (as they call It these days:p) on ALL of the things discussed above. This plan is being carefully planned with pre decided theme (make him feel like you are meeting him for first time), pre planted questions (ask him what are his views on monogamy), limits to be drawn on words (no such talks which seems like giving any signals from girls side) and obviously some crafted answers.. (if he asks anything about the GIRL in question).
BTW the signals to leave and final drop outs are also planned (using eye contacts and the clock timings- obviously only if the night and conversations are going good else the rescue SOS is there too wink)
The poor guy, come prepared at his best behaviour, dressed in best of clothes – by now he also understands how important this side’s opinion is. , THE GIRLS however- are ready to slaughter, ask the obvious questions on facts (to ensure consistency on answers given before) to decoding the fancies and grey areas (Why are you still single, how many girl-friends you have had in past etc etc) and judge every single thing- from his table manners to the drink he orders, from his shirt colour to the shoes he is wearing, from the way he talks to way he finally says goodbye, from the questions hes asking to his thinking face in between the conversations (oh this is important – btw to assess if hes an overthinker) . Only caveat being this all has to be still under CIVIL limits :p – but only until Alcohol does it charm (which for the first meeting is quite a NO NO)
On the other hand- when a girl is introduced. The first observation- her dress (too hot , too short, too sophisticated for the guy.. all questions). Then the talks – desi hai ya angrez?.. and then if the comfort level brings up- revealing every embarrassing detail about the GUY in picture and make is the MOST AWKWARD date- which the poor guy will have to answer and decode for many more to come.
And What happens post these meeting- the girls gang- discuss every word that has been said, the way the hello was spoken, how firm the handshake/hug was, how courteous the order placement was, how was the food served, how small talks were managed in between, the way forks were being held, the way meal was closed with the deserts , the way introductions were exchanged and some life’s sharing were done. And then there are confusions, laughter and questions on ALL of it. Mind you- ALL of IT. And based on this one meeting- LIFE COURSES are decided. Either are confusions are CLEARED or they are PLANTED.
The boys gang- it can either go- “ bhai sai bandi hai, apni bahut pategi”… or “ thodi alag hai bhai , but tu khush hai to sab badiya bhai” .. and mind you – the length of conversation differ yet again- as per the paras… And finally to judge the outcome- from the GIRL’S side- guy has to just observe the next day response pattern. If a good morning heart emoticon suddenly turns into a nice smiley- the train has been derailed. And if its vice versa- congratulations- you still stand a CHANCE until you screw it up next time :p. and from the GUY’S side- kuch badalna chahiye tha kya (toungue out emoticion)
